You hit it spot on. Your observations and perceptions do you credit with this posting. Very spot on.
In my later years I scouted all of New England, Upper State New York and some oddball places no one else wanted to go. I absolutely disliked college ball and all the wasted time I'm spent therein. To watch what that environment was like ..... was very depressing.
The coaching ranks ( that I saw) were a exercise in outright stupidity. Volunteer coaches assuming the ranks of pitching coach yanked my lines especially. Watching these coaching ranks, turnover year after year, did nothing for the hopefuls wanting to up their game and get better. On one occasion I got tossed from my seat after telling a pitching coach - just a few years older that his pitching staff, to be mindful of a youngster tossing his cookies up, behind a dumpster. Went in one ear and out the other. Third inning, the cookie tossing pitcher was in as a reliever.
The blame game was really raw with some of those colleges and universities that I visited. Listening to one coach rag on another was sickening. Job security issues were obvious as was personality pumping, egos, and browbeating looks that served in a supporting role of laughing at people not with them.
Now I will freely admit, on the flip side are the unrealistic assumptions and hopes of parents and families that want their son to get all the chances that are out there. Ok, I would want the same for my son. But, what misses the attention span of these people ( parents and families) are the vary parts of the real world that they themselves live in and the role playing that they have to assume to exist in that real world. Those same things exist in the college game that their son will have to deal with.
I don't mean to beat this subject to death with negativity, I really don't. I will be the first to say that I have no experience in the college and amateur environment. I'm just an observer looking in. I'll also be the first to admit that I probably have this all wrong, and that everything that I just posted is totally incorrect.